Across cultures there's a pattern, when a man and woman like each other and wish to spend time together the form a bond. You can call that bond with different names i.e. relationship, marriage, situationship etc. In each relationship, there's a driver and a power provider. Lets understand this better with a bicycle analogy. Bicycle has two wheels, one used to steer the direction and one used to power the motion ahead.
The choice of where to take this cycle of relationship rests on the front wheel and the choice of whether to sustain this motion rests on the back wheel. In classics, there are several analogies like this with a lot of symbolism everywhere. Coming back to our relationships, why most are avoiding marriages like plague has a very strong meaning.
If going by the bicycle analogy, during courtship period front wheel is with the lady and rear wheel is with the man and once a relationship is established the positions change. front wheel is handled by the man and rear wheel is handled by the lady usually, there can be exceptions and changes but this is the norm for the most part. This is because for the most part men just prefer acting over reacting to emotions which are always on a roller-coaster in a relationship.
So, basically if you wanna know if a someone will enter a relationship or not you look at the lady since she'd decide if the standards are acceptable. Once in a relationship the power to choose goes to the man whether the standards are acceptable or not. So you want to know if this relationship will survive or not you should look at the man since the decision making factor changes here. This is totally unrelated to the concept of who's chasing and being chased in a relationship. lady still be the one chasing and the equation here remains the same.
Rear wheel here signifies the efforts made to keep the cycle running and front wheel signifies the efforts made to keep the ride smooth and without any issues towards the common goal. No relationship is formed without a common goal. There's literally no better one of both, they have a role to play and positions keep shifting based on the issues encountered in the journey of life. When going through the mud the responsibility to avoid mud was with front wheel and once entered if no chance to power through the mud was the duty of rear wheel. You can't always avoid the mud in path in reality.
Relationships are formed by emotions and as we already know men are just not good at reacting to emotions hence ideal choice by default to hold the front wheel and women hold the power wheel deciding whether the power is smooth, predictable and ensuring controllable delivery of power as abrupt power delivery can cause traction issues and result in failures or unwanted accidents. Rear wheel's power output can decide which direction is to be taken for smoother ride as front wheel has to choose accordingly to navigate the wild terrain.
Front wheel has the obvious role to navigate through external circumstances as long as the rear wheel ensures stability, front will navigate through the environment. There will be smooth roads, bad roads, muddy roads but the cycle has to keep running towards the goal. Goal is your destination point and in a relationship is what you want out of your relationship. Even if both front and rear wheel are perfect in their own sense, without a direction moving is pointless and no results would just lead to frustrations and disagreements.
That's why even in most worst periods of history people entered relationships and there was a legal agreement to co-operate called marriage. But these days the goal to enter a relationship is vague and widely different. The question you should ask yourself before even looking for a partner is "What do you seek from this relationship?" If your potential partner that you're courting matches the description you can think of it as a yellow signal. It becomes a green signal only when your partner responds to the same ideology and you can take it ahead from there.
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