Why Heroes are more EVIL then Villains

What makes heroes different from villains?

 I've been pondering on this question for a very long time now. If you glance at it, in essence both heroes and villains are cut from the same cloth then what is it that makes them so different from each other. In almost every other story on the planet, heroes are considered good and villains are bad. The question remains, what makes one a hero and what makes one a villain?

 

 When you try sorting out the world and it's population. There's a set of population which drives everyone else. These people have an ambition, a goal that they're desperate to achieve at any cost. This madness to achieve their targets at any possible cost is what makes them the population that changes the world. Now depending on the level of madness they can be either at the peak or at the level of general populous. Since not everyone is ready to pay the cost that their desires demand.

 But again, if both heroes and villains want to fulfill their desires at any cost, what makes them different? Key difference is that the mass supports the hero and opposes the villain. The strongest here out of the both automatically becomes a villain whether he agrees to it or not. If you try to ask why? The reason is quite simple. Envy, jealousy, survival instinct, call if whatever you fancy. When you see someone else achieving way more than you do. The internal comparison steals the joy of your achievements and starts comparing with the best available around you. Slowly the logic goes out of the picture and desires take hold over thoughts.

Heroes and Villains are both powerful drivers of society and excellent in their fields. We know that one who gains mass support becomes the hero and other becomes the villain. There's one more angle to this, villains can hold their own to reach the top hence hero always comes second and to topple the villain he has to take support from the mass. Once villain reaches the top, mass starts harming the top performer out of sheer jealousy and the basic issue of haves vs have nots. Villains become villains because they try to safeguard their gains and in due process harm a lot of people around them.

Hero takes advantage of that and gains public approval becoming a messiah. Nature basically abhors outliers. Nature is basically this weird amalgamation of systems that seek growth and balance at the same time. Each time either one is thrown out of balance it forms a hero and a villain. Too much growth harms the balance and too much balance kills the growth. That's the norm of the nature, hence evolution is formed in a way that balances growth and stability aka balance in the populace otherwise life is dead. If you understand this formula you'd know why certain people who were once heroes and now are villains and vice versa.

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Relationship Dynamics - How to lead a relationship to a successful marriage.

Across cultures there's a pattern, when a man and woman like each other and wish to spend time together the form a bond. You can call that bond with different names i.e. relationship, marriage, situationship etc. In each relationship, there's a driver and a power provider. Lets understand this better with a bicycle analogy. Bicycle has two wheels, one used to steer the direction and one used to power the motion ahead.

The choice of where to take this cycle of relationship rests on the front wheel and the choice of whether to sustain this motion rests on the back wheel. In classics, there are several analogies like this with a lot of symbolism everywhere. Coming back to our relationships, why most are avoiding marriages like plague has a very strong meaning.

If going by the bicycle analogy, during courtship period front wheel is with the lady and rear wheel is with the man and once a relationship is established the positions change. front wheel is handled by the man and rear wheel is handled by the lady usually, there can be exceptions and changes but this is the norm for the most part. This is because for the most part men just prefer acting over reacting to emotions which are always on a roller-coaster in a relationship.

So, basically if you wanna know if a someone will enter a relationship or not you look at the lady since she'd decide if the standards are acceptable. Once in a relationship the power to choose goes to the man whether the standards are acceptable or not. So you want to know if this relationship will survive or not you should look at the man since the decision making factor changes here. This is totally unrelated to the concept of who's chasing and being chased in a relationship. lady still be the one chasing and the equation here remains the same.

Rear wheel here signifies the efforts made to keep the cycle running and front wheel signifies the efforts made to keep the ride smooth and without any issues towards the common goal. No relationship is formed without a common goal. There's literally no better one of both, they have a role to play and positions keep shifting based on the issues encountered in the journey of life. When going through the mud the responsibility to avoid mud was with front wheel and once entered if no chance to power through the mud was the duty of rear wheel. You can't always avoid the mud in path in reality.

Relationships are formed by emotions and as we already know men are just not good at reacting to emotions hence ideal choice by default to hold the front wheel and women hold the power wheel deciding whether the power is smooth, predictable and ensuring controllable delivery of power as abrupt power delivery can cause traction issues and result in failures or unwanted accidents. Rear wheel's power output can decide which direction is to be taken for smoother ride as front wheel has to choose accordingly to navigate the wild terrain.

Front wheel has the obvious role to navigate through external circumstances as long as the rear wheel ensures stability, front will navigate through the environment. There will be smooth roads, bad roads, muddy roads but the cycle has to keep running towards the goal. Goal is your destination point and in a relationship is what you want out of your relationship. Even if both front and rear wheel are perfect in their own sense, without a direction moving is pointless and no results would just lead to frustrations and disagreements.

That's why even in most worst periods of history people entered relationships and there was a legal agreement to co-operate called marriage. But these days the goal to enter a relationship is vague and widely different. The question you should ask yourself before even looking for a partner is "What do you seek from this relationship?" If your potential partner that you're courting matches the description you can think of it as a yellow signal. It becomes a green signal only when your partner responds to the same ideology and you can take it ahead from there.

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Ramblings on the Growth Strategy

Growth strategies are really interesting. Everyone has to say something on how growth can be achieved. While some methods are just tough, others appear easy but ain't different anymore. Truth be told, there's nothing that can be achieved without putting in ample of work. While sometimes you notice a few entities getting quick success but it is the result of sheer luck. Someone else had to put in the efforts before they took over the reins just at the right moment to get the credit.

While there are a lot of growth strategies, mainly I can compile them into 3 kinds of strategies. Refer the image below, figure 1 shows the ideal way, figure 2 shows the recommended way and figure 3 shows the seriously not recommended way. While theoretically its really interesting and easy to define your plans in a way which can fit into one of these stencils. In reality, all we do is keep switching between the approaches and the result matches the average of the time spent in each of these strategy modes.

In the Ideal method, one should balance out the long term and short them goals for their growth. But it's easier said than done. Though we could attempt to ensure that the average time spent making efforts result in this method so you can see a good result. How this shows up in real life is really fascinating. Most of use directly or indirectly optimise for this approach. Your Average Joe comes here and lives his life with peace and prosperity.

The moment you start asking for more, you start indirectly optimising for two other strategies, based on when you want it. If you want it right now then you end up making decisions that look like the strategy from figure 3. It's ideally not recommended as it is a risky path which says let me enjoy now and I'll pay for it later. While short term goals give you quick gratifications, in the longer duration it make your life hell overall.

While we can crib about the side effects of this approach for endless amount of time. The real question is that what makes this kind of approach so attractive, that most ambitious achievers end up choosing this path? This strategy really comes close to the survival mechanisms where if you can't survive right now, what's the point in worrying about the future? The YOLO attitude stems strongly from here. Quicker gratification mechanism, supportive evolutionary psychology and the achievements that quickly show up are the primary reasons for this method gaining popularity.

If you believe in following this kind of a strategy ensure that you are able to pay the debt later on ahead. For the most, in today's day and age it has become someone else's problem. For ex. Parent's taking debts they can't pay become the kid's burden. Old Corporate Owners taking debts where they end up selling the company become the new owner's headache. People who are staunch followers of this strategy often behave like parasites.

But life ain't black and white right? It's all gray, some just darker than others. When we look at the Figure 2, this strategy encourages one to let go of the short term benefits for the long term gain. These are the kinds who invest more for the future and spend less now so that they can save for a rainy day. The biggest issue that arises here is when that future no longer exists or not in the way they had imagined.

None of these methods are ideal but whichever path you choose surely tells you what's coming for you ahead. It might visit you sooner or later, but it's bound to get to you for sure. Just ensure you are ready for what's coming ahead. At the end of the day you might be following the ideal way in some things whereas you might be following negative growth strategy for some. For ex. you might be following strategy 1 in romance, 2 in money and 3 in general social relationships. Its quite fascinating to see it happen around you and that makes us who we are. We keep changing it in the due course of our lives, writing our own stories in this world.

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How to deal with challenges in life - Find answers with Numerology

Everyone responds to the challenges in a different way in their lives. While some withdraw into loneliness or avoid facing situation or suppress their emotions whereas others just outright face the problems headfirst giving it a headbutt. Some will deal with maturity and rationality while others would use their emotions to guide them. Let's find out using numerology what should be the best way to deal with challenges in your life.

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Rely on your inner strength but be open to sharing your challenges with family and friends. Facing problems alone may lead to isolation during tough times. Seek advice from others to gain fresh perspectives and insights for effective solutions. Strength, creativity, and courage will empower you to overcome obstacles.

Approach problems with tact, diplomacy, and courage. Avoid letting fear of confrontation hold you back. Focus on resolving tensions and strive for solutions that satisfy everyone involved. Your natural ability to compromise is a powerful asset. Stay optimistic, avoid exaggerating issues, and balance your emotions to maintain harmony. By applying these qualities, you can be a true peacemaker.

Adopt a lighthearted and optimistic attitude toward challenges. Collaborate with others to find mutually beneficial solutions, using your charm to influence outcomes positively. While emotions can run high in difficult situations, strive for objectivity and avoid becoming overly attached to specific outcomes. By staying balanced and open-minded, you can achieve solutions that benefit everyone.

Try to stay calm and look at the bigger picture when dealing with emotional issues. Control your anger and use your strength of discipline. Learn to compromise and let forgiveness, compassion, and understanding guide your actions. To resolve conflicts, try seeing the situation from the other person’s perspective—you might find new solutions by doing so. Remember, there are often more sides to a problem than you realize.

Face your problems directly instead of avoiding them. Don’t try to escape by distracting yourself with things like food, alcohol, or other habits. You have the creativity to solve any challenge when you focus on it. The solution is already within your reach.

Your strength is in understanding people and the root causes of conflicts. However, don’t rely too much on friends and family for comfort. Instead, take responsibility for the problem and address it directly. You played a role in creating the situation, so you are also a key part of solving it. Accept your responsibility and take action.

You tend to withdraw into yourself, avoiding the problem at hand. However, your sharp mind and analytical skills can guide you to a clear solution. Emotional overwhelm often clouds your judgment, making it hard to think clearly. Work on facing issues calmly and without letting emotions take over. Once you move past the emotional fog, the solution will become clear.

Use your power responsibly and constructively. Avoid manipulating situations or people; instead, take personal responsibility for solving problems. Your creativity and leadership skills can bring solutions, but remember to involve others and consider their concerns. By focusing on the greater good, you can achieve outcomes that benefit everyone.

Your strength lies in understanding others and seeing the big picture. However, you may distance yourself emotionally, creating a barrier. To find solutions, stay grounded in the realities of daily life and connect with others on a practical level. Embrace empathy and generosity—through giving, you will receive.

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Chapter Forty One

CHAPTER FORTY ONE

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Parnika constantly tries to find a moment where she can ask Jay the question she wanted to ask for a long time. Whenever she tries to talk someone interrupts as the rituals continue. She looks at Jay who just smiles back at her and follows instructions as the rituals continue.

Finally when the pandit asks them to get up for the seven vows she gets a chance. She leans in swiftly and whispers a question in Jay’s ears. “Do you really want to get married?” She looks at him with hopeful eyes. Jay looks around and whispers back in her ear. “Let it happen.” He smiles at her as she still wonders if this was the answer she’d been expecting all this while. “Oh! Love birds! Gossip later, you’ll have the whole night to yourselves.” Khushi teases as Jay blushes and looks at Parnika.

The Parnika wonders the meaning behind Jay’s answer. She just continues as Jay said, “let it happen”. The wedding finishes with a loud bang from the speakers nearby who start playing the party songs instead of the calm wedding music which was been played all this while.

At the end, everyone was sucked out of energy and desperately begged for sleep. No one had energy anymore after the party dance and busy day. Parnika wanted to confront Jay when he arrived in the room but looking at tired Jay she drops the idea. Jay changes quickly and just drops himself on the bed. He mutters almost inaudible ‘goodnight’ to Parnika and doses off to sleep.

Parnika looks at sleeping Jay and smiles. She couldn’t believe that after everything happened she still is here, happily married with the love of her life. She layed down and just looked at him as she her tired eyes began closing slowly and she heads into deep slumber.

Next morning wasn’t a usual morning. The couple was late even though both had a habit to get up early in the morning. The knocking on the door gets Jay’s eyes open. He looks at Parnika sleeping beside him as he gets up to open the door.

“What’s up with you lazy birds? Had too much fun last night?” Khushi walks in followed by Hitesh who was equally interested in teasing the other couple.

“Yeah, unlike you, I guess we did have fun.” Jay yawns rubbing back of his head as Parnika rubs her eyes. “Haa haa bhai, have to tame ej kehsho ne. ( Yeah, I expected you’d say that.)” Khushi continues the tease as she sits on the bed. “Yeah, it seems we have a competition now Khushi. I told you, they won’t let us win the title of best couple easily.” Hitesh adds wrapping his hand over Jay’s shoulder.

“What’s this best couple thing now?” Parnika combs her hair with fingers and ties it into a bun. “Yes bhabhi, Ma has decided to have a fun game to decide the best couple. Come on! Get ready quickly and come downstairs. Everyone is awaiting you two for the post wedding rituals.” Khushi gently pats on Jay’s shoulder as she leaves the room followed by Hitesh.

“Good morning Pari.” Jay smiles at Parnika who was now getting off the bed. “Good morning Jay.” She replies as she grabs a towel and walks into the bathroom. It felt as if Jay wanted to say something but was unable to open up. He grabs a towel and heads into another bathroom. Jay wanted to answer Parnika’s question yesterday but something just stopped him. He didn’t want it to be like this. He wanted his tell Parnika about his true feelings when she was in free mindset. He just wanted to make her feel loved. He noticed that Parnika smiled at him for first time in weeks. He realised this is the time to for what he wanted to do for a long time.

Jay brings in two cups of coffee as Parnika had still not been ready yet. She was changing into a saree for the other rituals. Jay had dressed up in a simple shirt and pair of jeans. Simplicity was one factor that made always made Jay more attractive. He observes Parnika who was pinning the end of the saree over her shoulder. She smiles at him looking into the mirror as she sits down to comb her tresses. He smiles back and picks up a cup of coffee.

He watches her getting ready without a uttering a word sipping his coffee, smiling at her. This wasn’t the first time he was watching her getting ready but it felt different. Parnika noticed the difference in Jay’s behaviour had changed since the last few days. Somewhere deep in her mind there still was a doubt hidden but she decided to keep it buried and focus on present. It didn’t matter to her anymore if he married her to keep his parents’ promise or wishfully. The thing that mattered the most to her was his love for her. She could feel the change in his behaviour. It was more caring, responsible and nurturing. It was childish although but this time she felt he knew what he was doing. The confidence in his voice when he answered her question. It somehow built a sense of trust in her.

Last night she wanted to ask him again to get a clear answer if he really loved her. But now she just decided to drop the idea as it doesn’t matter. Her dream was now true and now no one could replace her in his life. She blushed at the thought and gets up from the dressing table. She was ready to go out for the post wedding rituals. “I’m ready, lets go Jay.” She chimes in sipping in her coffee quickly which was now cold.

“Wait, I want to tell you something.” Jay rushes quickly and closes the door. Parnika looks at him as a smile spreads over her face. “What’s up Jay? You can tell me. I am not running away.” She giggles sitting on the bed. A different train of thoughts run across her mind flushing her cheeks red. Jay walks in close only bringing her thoughts to reality as he kneels down holding her hand in his.

“All this while, I have been nothing but a stupid, dense headed person. I never realised you were always with me like a shadow. Never leaving my side, being with me in thick and thin. But when you left me alone, I was devastated. Somehow, deep down inside I knew the reason but I still was being naive and ignorant. I thought I missed a friend. When you didn’t reply to any of my emails, it got me nothing but more furious.

I was frustrated as I have never imagined my life without you. I felt why all of sudden you were so mad at me. I thought I never had never wronged you, but it was late when I realised I had taken you for granted instead. I just didn’t acknowledge the impact and importance of you in my life. I just thought you were meant to be there always. Heck, the stupid me even tried to replace you with Anjani.

Thanks all thanks to her and khushi and made me realise that it’s you that I have always wanted in my life. You never asked anything from me but were always there when I needed you. But I was absent when you needed me the most. Pari, I promise that I won’t leave you ever again. Never I will again take you for granted.

When Miral and Khushi were arguing, their arguments somehow made me think later after her demise I just kept on self evaluating. I realised how my life was empty without you in it. Pari, I love you. I know it might be just too late for this but I really do and I just want to say it out loud. No more holding back.”

Jay leans in close to Parnika, “I really love you Pari, please always be mine.” A tear of happiness strolls down her cheek. He cups her face, leaning in close lets his lips touch hers gently. She wraps her arms around him tugging his hair. He lets his weight fall over her as he pushes her down gently. Her back touches the soft cushioning of pillows as he continues exploring her mouth.

There’s knock on the door diverting their attention as both look each other in the eye and start laughing. He gets off her and opens the door. “C’mon guys, how long you’re gonna take?” a cousin had been sent to call them downstairs. “We are ready.” Parnika smiles at her getting up from the bed. Parnika avoids looking at Jay who wasn’t battling an eyelid now. “Oh love birds, you can have your time later. We are waiting for you downstairs. Don’t make us wait any longer.” The girl winks at Parnika and heads back.

Parnika is about to walk out of the room when Jay places his hand over her shoulder and stops her. He grabs her hand in his and kisses as together they walk out of the room.

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Chapter Forty

CHAPTER FORTY

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Back at home, It had been two weeks of Miral’s demise. Khushi had been constantly prodding Jay about their marriage and what they were going to do about it. She had been trying to reach out Parnika in the meanwhile but she just never replied.

She used to get back home at abnormal times, never answer the calls and when confronted just make some excuse and never reply. Being a doctor, Parnika’s such reaction with death of her patient was unusual. It was irking Jay equally who now somehow had lost courage to just confront Parnika after the incident.

The things he had heard when Khushi and Miral were arguing had placed him some kind of zen mode. He was just constantly self evaluating the situations in his life till date. He was again seeping down in guilty, although this time for a different reason. He tried to strike a conversation with Parnika on Khushi’s constant prodding but she just ignored him. Parnika just wanted everyone to leave her alone for the time being. Somehow Miral’s death had affected her deep.

Parnika was constantly thinking if her love was really worth chasing after? She realised that till date, Jay never even confessed his feelings for her. He never told her that he even saw her in that manner. She wondered, who knows he just considers me a sister like Khushi? She recalls those moments when Jay’s mother, Shalini used to tell her that she was like her daughter. She gulps and looks at the moon in the sky. She wonders if all that care and affection was just a non-romantic gesture.

Here Jay was ashamed of not standing up for his own self. He was reprimanding himself for not standing up with Parnika all this time. He never had a chance to express his love and seemed he won’t get it again at all.

Next morning brought a change that would leave a prolonging impact on their lives. Jay’s parents, Shalini Shah and Arindam Shah ring the doorbell. Shalini drops her purse on the table closeby and pulls Jay into embrace. Arindam picks up the bag and gets the luggage inside the house. They were back home after their year long world tour.

The smile on their faces displayed the satisfaction of the world tour but there was something else much bigger which just had made them feel like they are happiest parents in the world.

It was a long dream of both Jay’s parents and Parnika’s mother to get their kids married. They had seen their bonding since childhood and were assured that they would make a great couple. The parents yet wanted to make sure that their children decide the same on their own. Their happiness had known no bounds when Parnika had informed her approval for the marriage.

A few years back, Parnika was asked first if she wished to marry Jay. She wanted to be assured that Jay wished for the same before giving her approval. So when Parnika’s approval arrived, parents had no idea that Jay was totally unaware about it. They assumed that both Jay and Parnika had a conversation and had arrived on the conclusion just like they did for every other thing until now. They never had any idea about Jay and Parnika making their own decisions alone.

With the parents back in the house the wedding preparations begin. Jay and Parnika were banned from contacting each other until their marriage rituals are over. Jay lost his last chance to tell Parnika, how much he actually felt for her. Jay never let parents know the truth. He just happily participated in every ritual wondering if Parnika did the same?

It was a destination wedding planned in Canada. Hitesh and Khushi had decided to Canada. Both had been working for a while now in the country. It was a dual destination wedding just like Khushi had planned. Hence Jay was now all alone waiting for the day. Hitesh was spending time with his family completing the rituals. Khushi was the bride to be and hence was kept busy as she was also organising the whole event alongside.

There was no time to have a proper conversation without anyone interrupting in the busy household. Parnika was first happy but surprised at the same time as Jay didn’t oppose the marriage. He never had a say in this decision and yet he just played along. Is he only doing it for the sake of his parent’s happiness? She wondered most of the time. She half-heartedly participated in every wedding ritual.

She was happy from the outside but confused and depressed from the inside. The last thing she wanted was Jay marrying her out of compulsion. It was the only reason she had asked Jay’s parents to wait and let her confirm if he wanted the same. But now there was a huge confusion and no solution.

Time passed and the day of marriage arrived. A red carpet paved the path for the couple to walk on leading towards the two beautifully crafted mandaps. The wedding arena was a open garden with flowering trees and bushes covering the whole area. The mandaps  were beautifully decorated with flower garlands covering the white pillars which supported the beautifully crafted pearl white dome overhead. There were two havan kunds placed beneath with the asans for the people to sit.

The wedding rituals begin with the chants of the mantras. The holy fire is lit and the brides are called in the mandap. Khushi walks the on the carpet followed by Parnika accompanied by Arindam. Khushi smiles at the crowd as she walks into the mandap. Parnika’s eyes look for Jay but it felt as if she had to wait longer.

Both the brides were beautifully dressed in red and white Panetar (Bride’s wedding dress). Khushi’s dress was glimmering with shining stones like a star light sky on a moonless night, while Parnika had simple yet elegant golden and silver threaded design over as if it was carved with gold and silver. Both the brides appeared equally beautiful as their jewellery shone and reflected the sunlight into some keen eyes.

Parnika’s eyes continue to search for Jay as the rituals commence. A few minutes later a call for groom is sent. Her eyes are locked at the path as she awaited for him. Jay walks in ahead followed by Hitesh. Both the grooms were in similar golden chrome shervani with orange dhoti. Both walked down the carpet acting like kings of some long lost kingdom. Jay smiled looking at Parnika who steals a glance and looks down. She didn’t smile back, instead looked at the flames of the holy fire in front of her. Hitesh winks at Khushi who for the first time blushes and looks away as her friends tease her from behind.

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