Dhawal's Blog -6- How I lost my motivation and gained it again.

Motivation is one such keyword which is used as if people apply butter or jam on the bread every morning. You'll find this lovely word or keyword as we describe it in the world of internet almost everywhere. Every day you'll have a dedicated article, quote, speech, or message popping up on how to get motivated, or how to deal with demotivation and what not.

Well every once in a while everyone gets burned out and results in demotivation. Major reasons of demotivation clouding over you would be not getting what you expected, or not getting feedback from expected, not being able to finish something, or similar things. Basically demotivation for the most part is a result of a feeling which you get after failure.

Now, I am not going to write an article on how to get motivated again as motivation isn't an external entity as most of us think of it like. It's not a fire which can be ignited with stimulus from outside. I know this is contradictory to almost 90% of articles and reference materials who 'guide' you to deal with demotivation but this is the truth. No amount of music, exercise or anything is going to suddenly convert your demotivation into motivation until and unless you get rid of that failure and do the thing successfully in first place.

Surely, a little external stimulus would help you temporarily to enhance your mood or make you feel better so you can start working on the issue that brought your morale down in the first place. Just using those tips and not working on the actual issue will be like trying to cure disease inside the body by just working on symptoms and not dealing with the root cause of the problem.

So, how to actually deal with this gloomy feeling which depresses every other upcoming adult and adults in this world? It's very simple, I have often watched this in Indian Army training videos where the commanding officer or the trainer commands the trainees or the soldiers to do the task and they don't have any option to escape. I work with the same mindset on myself. I tell myself that I don't have any option for this. I have to finish it now or like 10 years later. The choice of how long I want to procrastinate and delay the thing is up to me.

It is not very easy, let me tell you in the first place. Forcing yourself to just challenge that monster who has defeated you again and again isn't easiest of tasks. But to do that you first have to deal with the fear which just comes with the anticipation of imagining of facing that monster again. What I have learnt with the experiences that the anticipation of things be good or bad is always greater in feeling as compared to experiencing the actual phenomenon.

So how do I deal with demotivation and get myself up to give a nice fight back? These are the simple steps I personally use and I hope it might somehow help you as well.

  1. Stop finding excuses to delay the thing you are supposed to complete
  2. Don't sympathise yourself or allow anyone else to do the same, it's the worst thing and probably the last thing you'd want to be done to yourself. It's like drugs, emotional and hormonal drug that runs naturally inside our body. Once you start enjoying the comfort of it there's almost no way getting out of it.
  3. Try to look at the issue or the situation you are trying to deal with logically and practically.
  4. Break it into the points of root cause and results of those actions aka symptoms as I like to call them. For ex, Not passing an exam. find out where and why you are failing. Try to change a few things by changing study patterns and work on basics.
  5. Do not procrastinate, I repeat do not. Once you think that you are being a good person and tried to overcome your fear and try to reward yourself with some sort of positive action, don't. Reward yourself only when you are done with the thing for once.
  6. Bring actual results and not just thinking about doing something. Whatever you do, no matter how little bring out actual results that anyone can see or you can show the proof of your work. Working just inside your brain is never going to help.
  7. Do not use shortcuts, if you have less time then try to find out a way to do the conceptual thing properly and then apply shortcuts if its multiple and repeating thing but until then no shortcuts at all as far as you have sufficient time.
  8. Be Smart and Not Hardworking, with this I mean see how you can solve the problem, take external help if needed but don't carry on doing the donkey work.
  9. If its not broken, don't fix it.
  10. If it's broken but still not creating any issue yet, don't bother about it. You have a better task to get done with right now. Once you are done with it, you can go back to fixing things.
This is the way I deal with my demotivation and try to get myself back and fired up to work again. I often land into places and overthink a lot. But I always remember the ants when I reach a dead end.

Deal with situations like ants. Once an ant encounters a dead end, it doesn't stop there or sit and cry. It looks to find a way around and goes around the object or hurdle it encountered, alongside it warns it fellow ants that there's a dead end ahead. Don't just stop if you encounter failures. Learn to find a way around them. Also share your knowledge while you can as you might never know how it would benefit you back.

In the last blog post, I had mentioned some new surprises that I wanted to bring out to you. I have been asked by many to share my knowledge of coding with them. I know there are a ton of books and site from which even I have referred to while learning things myself but I still decided to try this thing out maybe not for you but for me to have a memory of it.

How many of you would like to learn python programming with me? I'd try to make as detailed posts as possible where non-coders can learn python and try a few knick knacks of Machine learning and Artificial Intelligence of their own? I know its a vast concept and can't be done in a few posts but If there's an ample demand for it, I might just give it a push. This is one of my surprises that I have been planning for a long time now.

So would you be interested in 'Learn Python with Dhawal' series of posts on this website?


Do comment and share your thoughts about it! I'd love to know what do you think. Also, I'd keep updating it quite often so do follow the blog to get all the updates by clicking here.

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  1. First of all, "If it's not broken, don't fix it." - this will surely help me out.
    And hell yes, I'd love to learn Phython...man, I have forgot everything I have learned in my graduation days. Do start the series, I'll follow it for sure.

    1. Thanks for the heads up! Sure, I'm planning to make it a weekly series so that most can practice and benefit out of it. I'll try to make it as basic as possible since I want non-cs background students to try their hands on a trick or two as well. Let's see how it fairs ahead, fingers crossed.


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